Parents play a special role in each and everyone of us. They are the heroes of our lives. Their responsibility does not end when we get married and have our own family. Whenever we need them, they’re always there.
I see a lot of grandparents who took the role of their children when it comes to raising their kids because their children are either working abroad or here in the country and some of them were abandoned because the parents of their grandchildren chose to live their own lives with their new family.
Sometimes, we tend to neglect their hardships, their sacrifices and we disregard the fact that they also have the right to live their own lives.
My brother and I grew up with both parents working. And when we finally settle down and have our own families, we didn’t pass the obligation of taking care of our kids to our parents because we can see that they are happy enjoying their lives while earning for themselves.
When my dad died, my mom chose to continue working because that’s what she really wants. Though, sometimes I still feel the urge to work and help my husband to provide financially for our family, I do not want to deprive my mom from the things that she wanted to do. I want her to enjoy her life, dine and watch movie with friends and co-workers and take a rest whenever she wants to. I do not want to see her getting tired of chasing my kids and I don’t want to see her suffer with all the stress of attending with the kids’ needs while doing tons of household chores.
They’re done with all of those sacrifices ever since they brought us into this world. It is now time to make them feel that there is something more to life than being a full time homemaker.
We are now living a fast-paced world where our responsibility is getting bigger but let us not escalate the burden of our parents by making them the nanny of our children. Remember, they spent two thirds of their lives to take good care of us. They are done with all the chasing, carrying and dealing with tantrums when we were just kids.
And today, we cannot deny that they are now getting old. We can see their body is getting frail, their bones are getting brittle and they get tired too easily. Yes, they are fond of our kids, they love their apo's, but let us give them the time to rest, to relax and to do the things that they have always wanted to do when they are too busy raising us.
They're not getting any younger. Our children is our own obligation, let us not pass it on to them. If circumstances forbid, better get a nanny so your parents will only look after them. If you want your parents to live a lot longer, give them the privilege to rest and to do whatever that makes them happy.
Remember, it’s not always about the money.
I see a lot of grandparents who took the role of their children when it comes to raising their kids because their children are either working abroad or here in the country and some of them were abandoned because the parents of their grandchildren chose to live their own lives with their new family.
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Sometimes, we tend to neglect their hardships, their sacrifices and we disregard the fact that they also have the right to live their own lives.
My brother and I grew up with both parents working. And when we finally settle down and have our own families, we didn’t pass the obligation of taking care of our kids to our parents because we can see that they are happy enjoying their lives while earning for themselves.
When my dad died, my mom chose to continue working because that’s what she really wants. Though, sometimes I still feel the urge to work and help my husband to provide financially for our family, I do not want to deprive my mom from the things that she wanted to do. I want her to enjoy her life, dine and watch movie with friends and co-workers and take a rest whenever she wants to. I do not want to see her getting tired of chasing my kids and I don’t want to see her suffer with all the stress of attending with the kids’ needs while doing tons of household chores.
They’re done with all of those sacrifices ever since they brought us into this world. It is now time to make them feel that there is something more to life than being a full time homemaker.
We are now living a fast-paced world where our responsibility is getting bigger but let us not escalate the burden of our parents by making them the nanny of our children. Remember, they spent two thirds of their lives to take good care of us. They are done with all the chasing, carrying and dealing with tantrums when we were just kids.
And today, we cannot deny that they are now getting old. We can see their body is getting frail, their bones are getting brittle and they get tired too easily. Yes, they are fond of our kids, they love their apo's, but let us give them the time to rest, to relax and to do the things that they have always wanted to do when they are too busy raising us.
They're not getting any younger. Our children is our own obligation, let us not pass it on to them. If circumstances forbid, better get a nanny so your parents will only look after them. If you want your parents to live a lot longer, give them the privilege to rest and to do whatever that makes them happy.
Remember, it’s not always about the money.
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